MY ex-boyfriend and I made a sex tape when we were still in love.

MY ex-boyfriend and I made a sex tape when we were still in love.

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I did things on that film that I had never done before and would never do again.

Really dirty, explicit stuff – bondage, threesomes and kinky tricks and I’m deeply ashamed.

Now this tape has come back to haunt me and I’m terrified my ex will show it to my new love.

My ex has never got over me walking away. We split up a year ago and people are still telling me that he is heartbroken and angry in equal measure.

I see him around sometimes and he frightens me. He stares at me like I’m a piece of dirt and I have to cross the road to avoid him.

I’ve been with my new boyfriend for three months and I’ve never known love like it.

Unlike my tricky ex, this guy is straightforward, decent and so loving. And we have a normal, healthy sex life.

He’s not constantly trying to push back the barriers in the bedroom like my ex was.

He thinks I am clean-cut and moral and would be outraged if he saw what a slag I used to be.

The other day I found a scrap of paper on my car windscreen.

The printed words simply said: “Show time?”

I went cold and felt sick.

Later I noticed a note had been shoved through my letterbox.

It warned: “Countdown to the premiere”. Now I’m so worried.

If my ex sends a copy to my new boyfriend he’ll be disgusted.

I’m in no doubt he’ll dump me and I’ll never see him again.

Should I try to strike a bargain with my ex?

What are my other options?

SENDING threatening notes is a criminal offence. If someone is attempting to blackmail you or ruin your new life, then they must be stopped.

So you made a sex tape – but you didn’t do anything illegal.

You’re assuming these notes are from your ex-boyfriend but if there were other people in the tape too it could be one of them.

I urge you to take everything to the police and report this matter.

Make it clear you are feeling intimidated and threatened.

Then go straight to your new boyfriend and tell him the truth.

That way, you take all the power away from your ex or whoever it is who is trying to scare you.

Explain to him that you were unbelievably stupid in the past and let your guard down.

How much you tell him about the tape is up to you but this is your chance for some damage limitation so that (hopefully) he’ll never want to see the tape for himself.